Patience & Perseverance

It was not often that you would get such an opportunity. The weather was perfect and the scenery was just there to be snapped. Your camera is at hand. The situation is ideal.

There is only problem one problem. You are not alone. You are in a company of people who might not appreciate your passion for photography, let alone photography of scenery.

What would you do?

The high C stood his ground and snapped away, ignoring the others in the party, knowing full well that there was no other agenda, no other appointments.... and got these beautiful shots.
Timing was important especially when the opportunity presented itself so beautifully.
Not to take it would have been a waste of documenting a wonderful work of art in the sky.
Worth the stares of the others. Worth almost incurring their wrath. Glad that they were mostly high S - they didn't mind too much!

To be a Follower

The "D" resists following.

Often finds reasons to critique.

There are flaws and faults.

Many areas that need improving.

To bring about change for the better, total involvement, yes, even take over, is necessary.

The "D" finds it hard to follow.

More often leads. Frequently takes command.

Unless.....

Just unless.....

It's another "D".

Then the "D" will follow more easily.

Self-Profiling

Classic.

She was who she was and totally unapologetic about it.

Fitted the description to a T.

I wish I could say more.... but she might be reading this and I would not want to incur her wrath.

That said, I am sure you know what profile I am referring to!

Choices

The younger one was whining.

The older one was provoking.

The mother was busy with her reading.

The father felt powerless.

The older one insisted that it was his right to play the PS2. He added that he didnt think the battery would last for the younger one to play. Naturally the younger one got upset. He pleaded with his parents to let him play first, or to tell his brother to stop.

Would you discipline the provocative child? Or would you attend to the whining one?

What would you do?

The mother continued with her reading.

Dad, however, was a high C. He opted to spend time with the whining child to explain why the older sibling was not to be heeded. He was anxious to explain why his decision to allow the older one to use the PS2 was right, and that he was not wrong about the battery life. He set aside the older one to sit next to his younger offspring to try to calm him down.

The older one continued to play. And smirked.

The younger one continued to whine. And was not appeased.

Yes, they were next to me on the plane....

Confrontation

What happens when one is confronted?

Does one feel indignant and fight back?

Or does one feel fear and want to please, perhaps even babbling away in reaction?

Or does one feel totally crushed and unable to respond?

What about the sense of wanting to justify and prove - "Just wait till I get my facts together"

It's not always easy to face confrontation.
It's not always easy not to take it personally.
It's not always easy not to react.

But the best response is not always the best reaction.
The best response is to know yourself and the person who is doing the confrontation.
Then decide on a plan of action.
Better still, decide on the plan of action beforehand and follow through with a level head even if the heart doesnt follow.

Then confrontation can become constructive.

Change?

I read this recently.

"Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that 'It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character.'

It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.

It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations."

Should do some personality profiling before marriage!