Facing Crisis

To be told that you need to be hospitalised and require surgery is always a shock the the system.

What more if you are still young and reasonably healthy?

How you face such news reveals a lot on your personality. Whether you have good support also shows. 

So someone dear and close faced such an event. She coped really well,  with good spirits and positive in outlook. She did well post-operatively too. Her bubbly personality continued to show, and friends from near and far continued to support. Thankful and we expect full recovery soon.

How about you? How do you cope? How would you deal with a similar situation?

Staying Together

What makes a couple stay together for fifty years and more?

Married for fifty, but having known each other for another ten before.Definitely the "S" here.

Thank God for you, Dad and Mom.

Coping with More

Two days after leaving on a jetplane to a far away land, my household help left for her hometown. Her son needed medical and surgical attention and she wanted to be there.

Curious little boy in the seat in front of us

When we came back, it was to a fully packed workload both at office and at home. Potentials for explosive emotional displays were high.

But amazingly, there were none. Our children who had been left behind were well behaved and helped as best as they could in our absence. We are thrilled by, and thankful for that.

I also feel that an understanding of personalities and human behaviour made a difference - we knew how to tap into each other's strengths and weaknesses.

Looking for Accommodation

Once decided, it's hard to change his mind.

You need facts and figures to present your case.

And presented in a logical, unemotional way.

That's the high C for you.

It's hard to find accommodation long distance for someone who is a high C!

Chalk and Cheese

One is cautious and has a small but close circle of friends.

The other is outgoing and has friends from all walks of life.

One has a specialist in what he does because he has worked it through before embarking on it.

The other is spontaneous and often tries his hand at all sorts of things.

Chalk and cheese. Yet best of friends. They make a great combination.

Meet my sons.

Dads Are.....

When you are small, Dad should be your superhero who gives aeroplane spins and piggy back rides on demand

When you are bigger, Dad should be your playmate who gives you fodder for creative games and silly songs.

During this time, Dad should be the teacher who gives discipline and guidance, even when you don't want it.

As you approach your puberty, Dad should be the one to teach you to care for the ladies and fend for yourself if you're a guy.

Going through teenage years, Dad should be there to help cope with the unfairness of life and uncertainties of the future.

At this time, Dad should be a mentor who will offer a good role model to look up to.

Reaching adulthood, Dad should be there for counsel and advice when asked, and even when not asked.

Getting into a relationship? Dad should be there to help spot the pitfalls ahead, and to encourage the joys that will come.

Having children? Dad should be there to start the silly cycle all over again, albeit slower and more indulgently.

That's my Dad. And it's his birthday today.

Happy Birthday, my all round DiSC Dad.

Squeeze Me! Roll Me!

I never thought it would be an issue. I thought I only read about it in novels. Certainly not in real life.

But it was true.

Our marriage had strife over a tube of toothpaste!

Hubby has "S" traits. So it didnt matter to him whether the toothpaste was squeezed or rolled or whatever. He wasnt brought up to have that matter. So for the sake of peace, he would just make sure the toothpaste was neatly put away.

But usually he squeezed. Anywhere along the tube. Just wherever he was holding. He squeezed.I have some "C" traits. This makes me to see details. It also makes me particular.

I was brought up to roll the tube. In this way, I was being energy efficient. It also satisfied the "C" in me to know roughly how much toothpaste was left in the tube. Furthermore, it looked neat.

I would "present my case" to Hubby. He would try to remember to roll the toothpaste to please me. But he often forgot. I couldnt blame him - when he was using the toothpaste, he was usually half awake having got out of bed or half awake about to go to sleep.

Still, knowing didnt help. In fact, it still grated on me that he squeezed my toothpaste! My "C" trait said it was not right.

However, my "C" trait also knew that this was too petty to have disagreements over.

So I thought over it.

And came up with a simple solution.

Two tubes of toothpaste.
Now that's understanding our inclinations and using them.