Growing all the Time

 Growth is a sign of life.

Without growth one doesn't stagnate - there is regression, because the rest of life just leaves one behind.

Growth is necessary to thrive.

Without growth, one can't keep up with the pace of life especially with the unprecedented challenges of life today.

Growth has to be intentional 

Learning to conference call

And that means adapting to new normal; enhancing current or getting new equipment, learning and adopting new soft skills.

And passing new learning on is one of the best ways to remember! 

Coping with Circumstances

Stressed?

Amidst the Covid19 situation

Facing Crisis

To be told that you need to be hospitalised and require surgery is always a shock the the system.

What more if you are still young and reasonably healthy?

How you face such news reveals a lot on your personality. Whether you have good support also shows. 

So someone dear and close faced such an event. She coped really well,  with good spirits and positive in outlook. She did well post-operatively too. Her bubbly personality continued to show, and friends from near and far continued to support. Thankful and we expect full recovery soon.

How about you? How do you cope? How would you deal with a similar situation?

Cold Feet

It's interesting to post about cold feet after a post about boldness.

But that's where it is right now.

Cold feet about doing an upcoming DiSC series.

And that's because the "C" rises up, wanting to do things just right, but not feeling prepared enough.

It Takes All Sorts

She had been invited for a meal. As far as I knew, they were not going dutch - her friend was going to pay.

Whilst her friend enjoyed her meal, she insisted that her meat was underdone and sent the plate back. Then she commented on the cold vegetables.

Finally she reiterated her disappointment to both the owner and the owner's spouse.

Much to the embarrassment of her friend who had thought it would be a treat.

The High D/C insisted on making her presence felt and opinion known. Regardless of the feelings of her High C/S friend who intensely disliked drawing attention to their table.

Defusing a potential situation required tremendous tact and self control. Which the owner DID exhibit. A classic case to answering wrath softly. Totally disarmed her. Absolutely silenced her.

I had much to learn.

Coping with More

Two days after leaving on a jetplane to a far away land, my household help left for her hometown. Her son needed medical and surgical attention and she wanted to be there.

Curious little boy in the seat in front of us

When we came back, it was to a fully packed workload both at office and at home. Potentials for explosive emotional displays were high.

But amazingly, there were none. Our children who had been left behind were well behaved and helped as best as they could in our absence. We are thrilled by, and thankful for that.

I also feel that an understanding of personalities and human behaviour made a difference - we knew how to tap into each other's strengths and weaknesses.

Stubborn

The high "D".

* despite being warned will pursue the path decided upon.

* despite being cautioned will continue down the chosen path.

Even upon encountering and unfavourable end to the journey, the high "D" often remains unmoved in opinion.

It takes a reformed and secure high "D" to admit wrong...

In Bereavement

She sat there fiddling with her food. Even though she had specifically asked for this dish for breakfast, she was obviously more intent on talking than eating. She pushed the food around in the bowl. Even her drink was untouched.

On and on she spoke. Pouring out her thoughts as they came to mind. She spoke mostly in monotone as she tried to control her emotions. In her quiet, gentle way, she exuded dignity.

But it was only a partial relief to be able to share her frustrations and her sorrow. Later she will have other opportunities to grieve. She will somehow move on from her loss. But it will not be easy. A classic "S" for whom relationships are treasured, this is one loss she will find hard to deal with for some time.

May she find people to come alongside her at this time.